Episode 8: Is Chemistry Real? Redefining Intimacy and Sexual Connection in Midlife

Описание: In this enlightening episode, Alyssa Dineen is joined by Dr. Saida and Aaron Michael, the founders of Embodied Love University and experts in the science of intimacy. Together, they dismantle the common myths surrounding sexual chemistry and "the spark," especially as it pertains to midlife dating.
Dr. Saida and Aaron share their decades of experience helping individuals and couples move beyond teenage fantasies of "instant" chemistry to build a more intentional, lasting magnetism. They explore the biological and hormonal factors that influence attraction, including how ovulation impacts receptivity, and discuss why a "peak experience" at the start of a relationship isn't always a sign of long-term compatibility.
This conversation is a deep dive into how we can all live in a more connected way by understanding the difference between a fleeting hormonal rush and a deeply built charge. Alyssa and her guests also tackle sensitive topics like libido during menopause, the psychology behind erectile dysfunction, and why our later years can actually be our "power stage" for connection.

You’ll also hear about:
(01:42) The big question: Is sexual chemistry real or can it be intentionally built?
(02:54) How trauma patterns, attachment styles, and hormonal cycles affect attraction
(03:21) The fascinating study on how ovulation influences physical magnetism and receptivity
(04:53) The secret to chemistry: Harnessing internal arousal rather than looking for external validation
(08:00) Why labels like "sapiosexual" or "polyamorous" can sometimes limit our capacity for connection
(12:19) Why following a strict "checklist" might make you miss the right person
(15:40) The "Likability" Experiment: How judging others on apps vs. real life changes your energy
(18:00) Is sexual incompatibility real, or is it a lack of skills and attunement?
(23:30) Debunking libido myths: Menopause, testosterone, and the "power stage" of life
(38:50) Navigating sensitive conversations around ED and performance anxiety in modern dating
(44:00) The "Penetration Protocol" study and how couples can revolutionize their intimacy

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Learn More About Dr. Saida and Aaron Michael
Visit Embodied Love University : https://www.embodiedloveuniversity.com/
Listen to The Embodied Love Lounge Podcast : https://open.spotify.com/show/76OUUm2...

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