Khanqah 69: aagahi se amal main dhalne ki taraf: shuraka ke journal | آگہی سے عمل میں ڈھالنے کی طرف

Описание: Khanqah 69:
aagahi se amal main dhalne ki taraf: shuraka ke journal
آگہی سے عمل میں ڈھالنے کی طرف: شرکاء کے جرنل
From Exposure to Integration: Participants' Journals

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AI-Generated Description:
The session continued the discussion on the Stages of Transformation, focusing on the critical shift from exposure to integration—the phase where real change begins through practice. The speaker emphasized that exposure requires humility: acknowledging a flaw, staying open to feedback, and believing improvement is possible. Integration starts when awareness is translated into intentional effort, guided by the four journaling questions shared earlier.

A participant shared that journaling highlighted two key needs: practicing the pause more consistently, and cultivating humility when receiving feedback, as defensiveness and quick justifications still arise. Their intentional practice involved pausing, improving listening through eye contact and body language, and helping the other person feel heard instead of rushing to respond. This was practiced mainly with family in everyday situations. Reflecting on effort rather than outcome brought peace of mind and clarity: responsibility lies in effort, not results. This shift stabilized self-worth and reduced emotional reactivity to criticism, while also easing unrealistic expectations of self and others.

When asked about the difference between exposure and integration, the participant explained that during exposure there was high discomfort, outward focus on others’ faults, and emotions like guilt or embarrassment. In integration, motivation increased, frustration reduced in frequency, and effort became the focus, even when outcomes were uncertain. Asking family members for support—such as gentle reminders when tired—further improved communication and cooperation.

The speaker then shared his own reflection on acceptance (tasleem) and contentment (rida). He realized that much of his stress came not from events going wrong, but from attachment to how things “should” unfold and an illusion of control created by planning. His practice involved pausing during stress, reminding himself that control belongs to God, releasing demands that events match preferences, and choosing restraint over panic. Practicing this in daily disruptions—delays, changed plans, unmet expectations—helped him react less impulsively and recover faster. He noted that acceptance does not instantly remove discomfort; it means choosing trust while discomfort remains.

Another participant reflected that acceptance comes easily when observing others’ hardships, and even physical illness is often accepted automatically, but relational and moral struggles require conscious effort. Through repeated learning, self-accountability, and heartfelt dua, small moments of acceptance began to appear more naturally. Letting go of ego-based identity also made acceptance easier.

The session reinforced that humility and acceptance are not weakness; real empowerment lies in recognizing what is within one’s control. The distinction between effort and outcome was emphasized: outcomes are not fully controllable, but effort always is. Imagination was suggested as a helpful tool for recurring challenges—mentally rehearsing better responses for future situations.

The session concluded by addressing relationship distress. The speaker clarified that relationships themselves should not be the target, as outcomes depend on others. The only valid target is one’s own effort and principled conduct, leaving results to God.

Contents:
00:00 Opening
02:31 Ms. Shaheen shares her journal
10:49 The facilitator shares his journal
22:17 Ms. Shaheen's comments
26:18 Ali's comment
30:43 Ms. Ikram's shares her experience
45:02 Ali's comment
48:17 What can be an alternative for journaling?
49:38 Ms. Malik's comment on Ms. Ikram's experience
52:51 Ali's comment
53:16 Ms. Nisar's experience about failing in the goal of developing good relationships


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