How Avoidants Actually Fall In Love It’s Not What You Think | Megan Weks

Описание: "I love you" shouldn't feel like running for an exit. But for millions of avoidants, closeness triggers panic, not peace.

In this 18-minute deep dive, attachment specialist Megan Weks reveals why avoidant attachment isn't a lack of love—it's a nervous system caught in a war between longing and survival. She unpacks:

• Why avoidants feel more love when they pull away
• The "Emma at 2:00 a.m." phenomenon (escape planning when things get real)
• Why your partner's sudden irritability might mean they're falling harder
• The small, invisible signs that an avoidant is actually committing
• How to stop feeding the anxious-avoidant loop without abandoning your needs

Whether you're dating an avoidant, healing your own attachment wounds, or trying to understand why love sometimes feels suffocating—this video will change how you see emotional distance.


📌 Timestamps below.

TIMESTAMPS WITH EMOJIS
00:00 – 🎬 The moment "I love you" feels like panic
01:12 – ❌ The biggest myth about avoidants
02:08 – 🧠 What's actually happening in their nervous system
03:41 – 💔 Why avoidants recognize love by the urge to leave
05:10 – 📦 Emma's story: Why she researched moving at 2:00 a.m.
06:28 – 🌀 The phase avoidants feel safest falling in love
07:55 – ⚠️ Why commitment flips the switch
09:02 – 🔁 The anxious-avoidant trap (and how to exit it)
10:17 – 🧱 Marcus & Sophia: When love feels like losing yourself
12:01 – 🪞 The avoidant paradox: Craving closeness, resisting it
13:10 – 🌱 Small moments that rewire attachment
14:25 – 🛡️ Receiving love is harder than giving it
15:33 – 🛣️ David's turning point: Grief outweighing fear
16:48 – 🔑 3 signs an avoidant is actually committing
17:34 – 🕊️ Your love isn't broken—it's guarded
18:00 – 🎯 Final frame: Choosing courage over escape

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This content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or psychological condition. Megan Weks and Quiet Psychology provide attachment education, not therapy.