Why We Fall in Love With Potential (And How to Let Go)

Описание: Why do we fall in love with someone’s potential instead of who they really are? And why is it so hard to let go when the relationship never fully became real?

In this video, we explore the psychology behind falling in love with potential, including how emotional intensity, projection, and nervous system patterns can create powerful attachments—even when the relationship itself is unclear or inconsistent.

You’ll learn why potential can feel more compelling than reality, how the mind fills in emotional gaps, and what it actually takes to let go of someone who never fully showed up.

If you’ve ever stayed attached to someone who felt meaningful but unavailable, or found yourself loving the idea of a relationship more than the relationship itself, this conversation is for you.

In this video:
• Why we fall in love with potential
• The difference between emotional intensity and real intimacy
• How projection and romantic longing shape attraction
• Signs you may be attached to an idea, not a person
• Why letting go of potential can feel so painful
• What it looks like to choose someone who is emotionally available

Journaling prompts
When I think about this person, am I responding to who they actually are, or who I imagine they could become?
What actions—not words—have defined this connection?
How do I feel in my body when I’m with them: calmer, or more anxious?
What version of the future am I grieving?
What would it look like to choose someone who is already available?

Watch the previous video
In Love With the Idea –    • In love with the idea of someone (and why ...  

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limerence, falling in love with potential, projection in relationships, attachment patterns, emotional unavailability, romantic obsession, why you can’t let go, one-sided relationships, depth psychology, relationship patterns, nervous system and love, letting go of someone, ambiguous relationships

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