Foster parent being asked about adoption

Описание: Foster parents: had this happened to you?

In many areas, case workers are required to ask about adoption very early into the case (sometimes on day one).

This can be hard to reconcile as a foster parent who is focused on reunification. It can add stress for a child who may hear this conversation (yes, many workers ask right in front of the child 😑).

Workers: please handle this convo with care.

Foster parents: I share so you are prepared (I was not prepared the first time it was asked of me!). If you notice the child is within ear shot, consider pausing and asking for this convo to be done over the phone in private. Additionally, please know that it is ok to not have an answer. This is a big decision and my personal opinion is that this should be handled differently.

Again, personal opinion, many people are not able to separate these plans in their mind and heart (reunification and adoption). SO much can happen during a case: reunification, relative moves, appeals, ICWA involvement, siblings being born, etc. Adding in adoption or a potential can be conflicting and hard to manage emotionally.

What do you think? Agree or disagree with this aspect of child welfare? When should this convo happen? Has a worker brought it up to you? Please share your experiences ⬇️

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