The Shame Spiral of “Not Doing Enough” in PDA & High-Needs Parenting

Описание: If you’re parenting a hypersensitive, PDA, or high-needs child, you may know this feeling intimately:

No matter how much effort you give, it still feels like it’s not enough.

In this episode, I explore the shame spiral so many parents fall into — not because they are failing, but because their nervous system is under chronic stress and impossible demands.

I share a deeply personal story, unpack the nervous-system roots of shame, and explain why effort and outcome so often get confused in high-needs parenting. We’ll also talk about why “going away” isn’t failure — and why what truly matters is learning how to come back.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why shame is a nervous-system survival response
• How conditioning and trauma fuel the belief that you’re not enough
• Why your child’s challenges are not a reflection of your effort or worth
• How to shift from self-attack into compassion and clarity
• Why repair and return matter more than perfection
• 3 powerful shifts to embrace when shame takes hold


This episode is for any parent who has ever felt like they’re failing — even while giving everything they have.

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You are not broken.
You are not failing.
And you are not alone.