Just Let Me Surrender Control… whatever that looks like

Описание: When Control Is Really Fear: Learning to Surrender What You Can’t Fix
Trying to control everything isn’t a sign of strength — it’s often a sign that your nervous system doesn’t feel safe yet.
In this episode, we explore the deeper psychology of control and why so many emotionally aware people rely on it as a survival strategy. Drawing from polyvagal theory, attachment research, and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we unpack how early unpredictability wires the brain to cling to control for safety — and why this pattern keeps you stuck, anxious, and disconnected from peace.
You’ll learn how control functions as a nervous system response rather than a personal flaw, why fear often disguises itself as “being responsible,” and how true surrender signals safety to the brain. We also explore the truth many people miss: surrender doesn’t mean powerlessness — it builds trust, emotional resilience, and clarity.
I share a personal story of a moment when my need to control backfired, and how releasing my grip led to unexpected relief and deeper presence.
If you’ve been exhausted from trying to manage outcomes, fix situations, or hold everything together, this episode offers both understanding and practical tools to help you surrender without losing your agency or identity.