The Counter Parenting Patterns Every Mom Needs to Recognize

Описание: Can someone be a terrible husband and a good father? In this episode, we unpack counter parenting, the covert behaviors that undermine moms, confuse kids, and normalize emotional abuse. Award-winning YA author A.S. King shares lived experience and storytelling insights that help name what’s happening at home and why honesty, boundaries, and accountability matter.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions: https://www.btr.org/group/
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A.S. King's Novel Pick the Lock: https://amzn.to/4nz1EaC

Chapters
00:00 Intro & why counter parenting matters
01:12 You can’t be a terrible husband and a good father
03:05 Six truths about counter parenting every mom should know
06:10 #1 Harmless in public, cruel in private
08:02 #2 Fires, chaos, and keeping mom busy
10:15 #3 How counter parenting normalizes emotional abuse
12:04 #4 Grooming the protective parent; love-bombing kids
14:36 #5 Kids figure out safety sooner than you think
16:10 #6 If he lies/degrades mom, he can’t be a “good dad”
18:05 A.S. King’s background & why stories reveal patterns
20:22 “Silent tyrant” tactics: small cuts, big damage
23:10 Everyday counter parenting disguised as humor
25:18 Lying as the core of abuse (and how it warps reality)
28:40 DARVO, image management, and moving the goalposts
31:05 Why abusers “tell the truth” only when it serves them
33:22 Parenting through confusion: what kids actually see
36:00 Informed consent, secrecy, and narrative control
38:45 Grooming kids with “secrets,” favoritism, and access
41:20 Victorian-house metaphor: perfect on the outside, trapped inside
44:10 Journaling, pattern-spotting, and reclaiming your story
47:05 Safety first: why clarity beats endless fixing

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