Confession Doesn't Equal Recovery | Here's What Does

Описание: Confession feels like the goal—but what if it's actually the starting point?

In this episode, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to talk about what genuine recovery from sexual addiction looks like in the church. Nick shares his own story of pornography addiction, staggered disclosure, and the turning point that changed everything. They also discuss betrayal trauma, purity culture's failures, why women's sexual struggles are more common than we think, and why deep community—not white-knuckle willpower—is what actually brings lasting change.

Resources Mentioned
Pure Desire Ministries: puredesire.org
Platonic by Marisa G. Franco: book on friendship and intimacy, https://amzn.to/4bnEY9r

1:18 Welcome And Show Mission
2:02 Introducing Guest Nick Stumbo
3:54 Pure Desire Origins And Approach
5:31 Nick’s Staggered Disclosure And Crisis
6:54 Confession Versus True Recovery
9:09 Church Culture Shift And Openness
11:33 Why Long-Term Groups Work
13:44 Community, Trauma, And Attachment
19:04 Family Of Origin And Shame Messages
21:24 Purity Culture And Sexual Maturity
24:21 Desire, Lust, And Theology Of Intimacy
27:30 Dismantling Shame With Specific Honesty
30:29 Therapy, Arousal Template, And Safety
32:21 Betrayal Trauma And Spouse Healing
35:19 Discernment: Rebuild Or Release
37:39 Women’s Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
40:24 Resources For Women And Churches
42:21 Closing Encouragement And Next Steps

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